I read this interview with Emma Thompson and Maggie Gyllenhaal. Both women are pretty and cool and seem smart and interesting. I've always liked them. This interview makes me like them even more. I like Emma Thompson WAY better than Maggie Gyllenhall though. She is so much more grounded and real. Maggie Gyllenhaal tries to seem grounded and real and I do think she is great and I like what she has to say in this article AND I like her much better than Gwyneth Paltrow but people who "carve out me time" by doing 2 1/2 hours of yoga every day just aren't the same as me. I don't relate. I mean, maybe I would take 1 hour at the most on a treadmill but it's more likely that I would lock the door to go to the bathroom or hide in the pantry and eat chocolate chips. I'm not genteel like these Hollywood types. [Read the interview so we can discuss it.]
I also think that saying "I want to be X when I grow up" is a backhanded compliment and another way of saying X is old. But Emma Thompson is much more gracious than I am and takes Maggie's compliment like a lady. I want to be her when I grow up. I also think it's funny that when Maggie Gyllenhaal was playing the role of a frazzled mother driving a car with 5 kids and pets in Nanny McPhee 2 she "cracked." Granted I ONLY have 4 kids but it's my real life and I haven't cracked. I mean, not clinically. I wish I were Maggie's acting coach because I would tell her, "Since these aren't your real kids and you aren't really driving them but only acting like they are your real kids and acting like you are driving them why don't you pull a Robert Dinero and ACT LIKE YOU AREN'T CRACKED." Actors--they act, right? Am I not getting it?
Nevertheless, Maggie Gyllenhaal is smart to take advice from Emma Thompson and I really like what she says about paying attention to her husband and I have also read Home Comforts and it is very good.
Emma Thompson gives the best advice when she tells Maggie Gyllenhaal that you can't have it all. It's the post-feminist truth. You don't need it all and you can't have it. I don't. But I have enough. You might think that I'm a fantastic blogger and my children are charming but I have a really fat stomach and I have to suck in all the time and it is very tiring. I might think you have a great life and shapely legs but your blog is really boring. See? None of us have it all. [Please don't make comments about someone who really does have it all. I'm not interested.] Anyways. I like what Emma Thompson says about this. It's kind of a revelation.
That being said I think there is an interesting feminist backlash going on right now in the form of people who are really into homemaking and claim to be anti-feminist. They can do and say what they want. That's part of feminism. Actually, it's just part of being a nice, fair, person who lets other people live their life. What do I care? I happen to not be good at homemaking, or maybe I'd go all Martha Stewart on you. I think a lot of people my age are "rebelling" or asserting their individuality by embracing the 50s because maybe they grew up in the 70s and 80s with a working mom and Claire Huxtabel so now baking bread in heels and an apron seems quaintly retro and awesome. And their mom's are going, "Red lipstick and homemade cupcakes? Yeah--we remember Donna Reed just a little too well for it to be awesome to us." Kind of like how I remember baggy fluorescents and stinky plastic flats just a little too well for the 80s to be awesome to me.
I find it interesting. I am nostalgic for the past, too. My mom used to tie a dish towel around her neck like a bib to keep her church clothes clean while cooking Sunday dinner. I do that sometimes--but I'm not going to start an Etsy shop selling dishtowels. Whatevs. I could hang out with Emma Thompson I think. I could hang out with Maggie Gyllenhaal too if she wanted to.